Let’s be honest—money is one of the most common sources of tension in marriage. Whether it’s debt, different spending habits, hidden accounts, or just not knowing how to talk about finances without things getting heated, money can quietly become the wedge that drives couples apart.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
In this week’s episode of A Purpose Driven Marriage Podcast, we had the privilege of sitting down with Dan and Kay Ockey, married financial coaches and the founders of Centsei Financial, who shared their powerful story of going from secrecy and stress to unity and peace in their finances—and in their relationship.
This wasn’t just another conversation about budgeting. This was about heart change, healing trust, and learning how to move forward together.
💥 From Conflict to Clarity
Dan and Kay opened up about the early years of their marriage when financial fights were an almost daily occurrence. They were newly married, broke college students, and coming into the relationship with very different money mindsets. To make matters worse, Dan had been hiding his real financial situation… and it all came crashing down shortly after they said “I do.”
Sound familiar?
The turning point came when Dan asked himself a simple but life-changing question:
“Do my money beliefs matter more than my marriage?”
That single moment of humility and clarity set them on a path—not just to pay off $20,000 of debt in six months—but to create a system that would help them (and eventually thousands of others) experience real financial peace.
📅 The Weekly Habit That Changed Everything
So what was the game-changer?
A simple weekly financial check-in.
Not hours of budgeting spreadsheets. Not complicated investment talk. Just a regular 15–30 minute check-in to stay aligned, make adjustments, and communicate clearly.
Here’s what it helped them accomplish:
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End money fights and blame cycles
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Rebuild trust after financial betrayal
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Create shared goals that pulled them closer together
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Establish financial rhythms that allowed them to flourish—as a team
And the best part? This system works whether you’re the saver, the spender, or somewhere in between.
🧠 Why It Works
What makes this approach so effective is that it doesn’t require you to agree on everything—it simply helps you build a shared system that brings structure, grace, and accountability into your marriage.
It’s not his way or her way.
It’s our way.
And as Dan and Kay explain in the episode, this shift can turn one of the biggest sources of division into one of the strongest forces for unity in your marriage.
“You don’t need to keep fighting about money—you just need a system that makes room for both of you to show up, be seen, and move forward together.”
🎁 Get Dan and Kay’s Free Budgeting Class
If you’re ready to stop the tension and start building something lasting, Dan and Kay are offering our listeners free access to their budgeting class—no strings attached.
This class will walk you through the exact steps to start having better financial conversations, create shared goals, and build a system that brings peace instead of pressure.
👉 Sign up here:
https://www.centseifinance.com/duane-and-nadine-a-purpose-driven-marriage/
It’s the perfect next step if you’ve ever said:
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“We’re not on the same page with money.”
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“I’m tired of doing it alone.”
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“I wish we had a plan that worked for both of us.”
Don’t wait until your next money fight. Take the step now that future-you will thank you for.
🎧 Listen to the Episode
Catch the full conversation with Dan and Kay on your favorite podcast platform or click here to listen now. You’ll walk away feeling encouraged, equipped, and ready to approach your finances as a team.
A Purpose Driven Marriage is all about helping couples live out God’s design for marriage—with love, purpose, and unity. We pray this episode inspires you to take a small, courageous step toward healing and hope in your financial life.
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